Candace - Daughter of Resident

Time for a Change: It’s Too Much Work Putting Up the Christmas Tree

When Candace heard her Mom say, ‘it’s too much work putting up the Christmas tree,’ she began to think something might be wrong. But then her Mom began to act feisty and even a little bit mean. Candace was confused.

It broke her heart at the time but Candace realized later on that her Mom was suffering from dementia. After years of putting up decorations and a Christmas tree and having a great time, suddenly her Mom was turning away and seemed not to want to be bothered.

Candace did not realize at the time that people living with memory loss often exhibit a withdrawal from work or social activities they once enjoyed. This might reveal itself in someone showing little interest in Holiday gatherings or activities.

To keep her mother safe, Candace knew she had to find a way to move her out of her home. A dream Candace had about her mother moving to Ann Arbor was instrumental in her mother’s decision. Much to Candace’s surprise, her mother was not only willing, but excited to make the move. Candace had driven past University Living for 15 years and had admired the well kept grounds and thought some day she would bring her mother there. A visit to University Living and a high recommendation from a co-worker who’s mother was living at the senior living community solidified that University Living was the best choice.

After months of packing and hours of moving in her belongings and hanging her souvenirs from her travels to 300 countries, Candace’s mother was settled in and at home in her new apartment.

Candace said, “She was really excited about moving…. She was glowing when we arrived in Ann Arbor. Her apartment looks like a mini home for her.”

Candace’s mother has been living at University Living for two years and stays active at home and out in the community of Ann Arbor. If Candace had to start over again looking for a senior living community for her mother, who just turned 97, she said she would make the same choice.

“This was the best decision I could have ever made in my life. University living is on the map because the people here really care. The management is exceptional,” Candace said. “They take great care of my mother and treat my mother and me like a royalty.”