How Do You When It's the Right Time for Assisted Living?
Hello everyone, my name is Carolyn Katterjohn. I’m the executive director here at Provision Living at Hattiesburg. Something today that I feel so passionate about sharing with all of you is, “How do you make the decision when it’s the right time to take a journey into a community versus living at home?” You know, as adult children, we stop, and we think, “How, when, or why?” Then we realize, those are questions we need to be having with our family members.
You know, one thing we always want to remember is that we want to make everyone feel valued. We want to make sure everyone understands that we’re in this together. When you join into that conversation with each other, you’ll find out that there are so many avenues to go [through] that it becomes very confusing.
If you’re just beginning this conversation, something you want to do is to find out what’s really going on in your loved one’s daily life. What’s missing? What’s the challenge? What’s disrupting their…ability to enjoy their life every day? When you find those things out, like they’re afraid, they’re scared of cooking, or they don’t want to drive anymore. Perhaps they’re confused and don’t know when to take their medicine. They’re thinking to themselves: I don’t want to tell anyone because I don’t know, I don’t want to be a burden. These are conversations that, if you talk about [it] quietly and calmly, you can come up with a plan of what your next steps should be.
But, always remember that we need to have respect for everyone in the conversation. You do not want your loved one to feel like they are losing control of decision making. How do we do that? We ask them a question, and then we quietly listen to their answers. We show them the respect and value of what they’re saying to us.
After listening to them, then we can make decisions like, “Hey Mom or Dad, maybe the next step is to go and visit with our physician, and let them decide what’s going on with you and how we can manage your medication to make you feel stronger and safer.”
Or, you may find out they’re just really concerned about safety in their homes. They’re afraid of going down the steps and answering the door. Do we need to do ‘A’ to make sure the house is safe, or is it time to explore, or would you feel safer in the community with other seniors? When you talk with them, you’re letting them be part of the decision-making versus you saying,“We’re going to go look at assisted living today,” or “We’re going to look into independent living or [a] senior group home.” You’re letting them tell you what’s going on, and you guys are making a plan together. What we find in this industry is that when we journey together and let them be part of the decision-making, it becomes more successful than us making the plan for them.
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